The most depressing thing about living in Germany

What bothers me most about living in Germany is the Rücksichtslosigkeit, the lack of concern that one is inconveniencing others, that is deeply embedded in the culture. For example, these days I have to do dialysis in a big center, with five other patients in the room. Some of these people are sleeping (it's exhausting to do dialysis). And yet, one person is happily chatting, loudly, on their phone; this has been going on for at least 40 minutes now. They just don't care how it affects the others. This behavior is not unique to Germany; but it is in stark contrast to the normal behavior in Japan. I have dialyzed many times in Kyoto and Tokyo, and not once has it happened that anyone would behave in such a manner. It's just unthinkable. I think it's this day-to-day consideration for the other that I miss most about Japan. There's much to like about Germany compared to Japan, and really on balance, I can't imagine living in Japan any more, not permanently. The quality of life in Germany is simply much better. But this aspect of German life really bothers me, and it's a mystery why nobody cares how others are affected. This kind of attitude spreads to everything, car drivers, cyclists, people in the subway, even pedestrians. It just makes life just a bit more miserable than it already is, and unnecessarily so.